Are You Causing a Problem?

One of my favorite quotes from Dr. Hew Len, master teacher of Self I-Dentity Through Ho’oponopono is, “Have you ever noticed that when you have a problem you are there?”

That’s right, whatever shows up in your life you have something to do with it…problems and all!

Besides juicing, the other topic I like to go on and on about is that we are the creators of our own reality. But sometimes we don’t want to own up to that, do we? If something crappy is going on in my life I know I don’t.

Let’s take health and weight for an example. We have created our current state of health by our thoughts, expectations, and beliefs. If you are not in the state of health you would like to be right now you might not want to hear this, but it’s the truth.

Pushing against unwanted health conditions or weight keeps it hanging on. I found an interesting example of this today watching a live stream webinar. This is not meant as any kind of a judgment—just an observation. The woman leading the webinar is a very successful business coach, speaker and author. She is also very, very overweight.

What was interesting to me was that she brought up her size and said that it was a part of her persona , her look so to speak, and she also called herself fat several times and referenced her fat ass.

I can’t help but wonder—is she happy being that overweight and that being part of her persona, or does she just have the belief that she can’t lose the weight and reinforces that by calling herself fat etc to others and God only knows what she says to herself?

Speaking from the perspective of having been a quite overweight person myself, although I finally accepted it because I realized that pushing against it and hating it was keeping me stuck, I stopped the negative self talk externally and internally and I consciously changed my beliefs about food, body image and diet. I changed my thoughts, expectations, and beliefs and consequently changed my life.

I really respect this coach–her mindset has made her hugely successful. I like her style and would love to attend one of her seminars. I learned a lot from the webinar. But it made me think about why many of us, including me, can have such great success in some areas of our lives but seem to stay stuck in others.

And the answer is simple, yet frustrating in its simplicity. As my mentor Andy put it to me the other day, you are just not in alignment with it. Sounds easy so why is it so frustrating? Because I’m doing it to myself whether I like it or not. There is no one or any circumstance to blame. I can try to blame my parents or my teachers for giving me the beliefs I carry around all I want, but that’s not going to change anything because they are not thinking my thoughts…I am.

I am not to blame either, but I am the only one responsible. So when you are trying to transform an area of your life that you seem to be stuck in, take it easy on yourself, fully accept where you are, and then start to make the shifts that will get you into alignment with where you want to be.

It’s as simple…and irritating…as that.

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One Response to Are You Causing a Problem?

  1. sarah December 17, 2013 at 7:12 pm #


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