How Do You Find the Joy When Nothing’s Going On?

There is no vacation on the horizon.

Work is just chugging along as usual.

There is no special someone….or the same special someone who’s not feeling so special right now.

There seems to be nothing to look forward to.

And what does that last statement tell us?  That we are not living in the moment—we want to be in some future place that seems a hell of a lot better than where we are right now.

That kind of sucks if you think about it.  We spend a lot of our lives anticipating future events that we think are going to be great.  Yes, it is fun to have things to look forward to and there is certainly nothing wrong with feeling the good feelings that are associated with whatever exciting thing is coming up—it’s how we manifest great stuff into our lives.

But what about right now?  What about this moment where I am hitting a bunch of keys and making words on a page?

I got to thinking about this because I am doing a juice fast today.  Earlier I had a brief wave of sadness that there was no food to look forward to.  I realized I get a little excited about my afternoon snack of fruit and some nuts.  I like thinking about what I will have for dinner and I enjoy the time I spend preparing and eating it.

Or knowing I am going to meet a friend or friends for a glass of wine and dinner—looking forward to that makes me happy.  But what about the time between here and there?

The truth is that none of these future events or things is going to make us happy because there is always going to be something more that we want.  So basically what we are doing is wishing our life away.

My mom used to say that to me and I never really thought about it.  Don’t wish your life away.  Meaning wishing it was Friday when it’s only Tuesday—what happens to all those days in between?  And what happens on Sunday when you start wishing the weekend was longer and that you didn’t have to go back to work on Monday.  Now Sunday is shot as well.

I was so fortune over the weekend to go to Mike Dooley’s Playing the Matrix workshop.  I always love his message and how he Mike--Playing the Matrixpresents his material.  But the best thing for me to have pounded into my brain this weekend was how the matrix flowed.  Everything flows from HAPPINESS which is on the left hand side.  On the far right of the matrix were the specific things that we want in our lives.

Not to say that the things are not great—they are!  But when you try to see how that one thing flows back across the matrix to lead to happiness…well it doesn’t.  The matrix flows in one direction only starting with happiness.

Do you know what this means?  Right!!—you have to be happy now with whatever is happening or not happening in your life.  And that’s how you will get the life of your dreams.

WHAT???  But my life sucks right now—how can I be happy with that?

No matter what is going on in your life right now—no matter how stuck or sad you feel—there are ways to find some moments of happiness, and that is where you start.  Spend time with a friend, especially someone you always laugh with.  Pet your cat or dog—if you don’t have one borrow someone else’s or go to the dog park.  Go walk in nature and feel the awe.

And try to find some peace in whatever you are doing in the moment.  Because that’s where the magic happens.  When you can be happy doing whatever it is you are doing right now, the rest of your life will start to seem like one miracle after another.

Even when there is just juice.

This is my 100th post!!!  If you liked it please share it on your facebook wall.  Or if there has been another in the last 99 you particularly liked please share that to celebrate (OK, I know it is really me who is celebrating but this would help the party I’m having in my mind!!).  And as always, THANK YOU for reading!!

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2 Responses to How Do You Find the Joy When Nothing’s Going On?

  1. Phil Webster June 17, 2014 at 8:03 am #

    Congrats on post #100!!! What a milestone!

    • Gwen
      Gwen June 17, 2014 at 12:54 pm #

      Thanks Phil!! :-)

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