Side of the hand: Even though I don’t feel like writing this post, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway. Even though I feel like I have a ton of writing to do and I keep putting it off, I absolutely love myself anyway. Even though it makes me feel overwhelmed so I push it aside, I love and accept myself anyway……..Oh, sorry, just needed to do a little tapping on procrastination!
What is procrastination and why do we do it?? According to Merriam-Webster, Procrastinate: to put off intentionally and habitually, : to put off intentionally the doing of something that should be done. Hmmm….well the second definition may give us a clue as to why we procrastinate—something that should be done. So it should be done rather than something you are doing for the fun of it. What makes an activity into a should?
Well, let’s see—we can use this blog post as an example. I love to write—so when did this post turn from something I love to do into something I should do? I guess that would be the moment I put it on my list of goals to be accomplished this week. Suddenly it is there staring me in the face. So, it actually became a must for this week, and a should for every day this week. That certainly sounds like it takes the fun right out of it!
So how do we keep ourselves accountable and do the things we must do without turning everything into a chore? Do we stop making lists and setting goals because it seems to make things too hard? No, somehow I don’t think that is the right answer. I think the answer is……find the fun in the activity again. Don’t let the “should” status of an activity drag it down into the realms of the undesirable. Take a minute to stop and reflect upon the satisfaction you will get out of tackling the task. Think of why you put it on your list in the first place—what ultimate goal will doing this task get you closer to. Even take a minute to visualize yourself working on the task, completing it satisfactorily, and then move ahead to envision yourself reaching your ultimate goal. Really get into the feeling—how great are you going to feel when you reach that goal?
And viola! You have changed your mindset and how you are viewing the task. There is a lot to be gained from completing this task, and your have remembered what it is you like about it and why it is on your list in the first place.
Ok, that plan is all well and good……but what about the tasks that are shoulds, or even musts, but things that you have never found any enjoyment in doing. How do you find the fun in that? Try thinking past the task to the end result—how will I feel once this task is complete. Chances are you will feel some sense of relief because it is something you didn’t want to do in the first place. Also, no matter what the task might be you will probably feel some satisfaction if for no other reason than you completed the task. If you can think about how you will feel after the task is complete i.e.: relieved and satisfied, you are moving out of your stuck space by doing as Abraham-Hicks calls reaching for a better feeling thought. Once you get into this better vibration, it makes it easier to get going on the task.
So, problem solved!—we will never procrastinate again!!! Hahahaha—ok, not really. But if we stay aware of how we are feeling we can catch ourselves when we decide to get off the bus at procrastination station. We can halt the negative thought pattern that starts to creep in about why we don’t want to do what we should or must do. And hell, we can spend a lot of time absorbed in this thought pattern, and not only is it exhausting, but we probably could have completed the task a few times over with the time spent worrying about it. So instead find the fun in it, reach for the better feeling thought, and get going!!