The New F Word

My friend  Leigh Daniel, an author and speaker, just coined a new term—fucus.

Meaning—fucked up focus.

I love this!  Aside from the fact that I love a nice f-bomb lob, it just speaks volumes when thinking about where we put our focus on a daily basis.

Do you grumble about the pile of bills you have to pay or are you grateful that there is some money in your checking account?

Do you lament the size and shape of your body or are you happy that you have two working legs to carry you around?

Are you addicted to watching the news and then ruminating about all that is wrong in the world instead of lookingBlooming Tree out at a tree in bloom and being blown away by nature?

Do you focus on what is wrong in your relationships rather than what works?

Do you wake up dreading your mundane job or are you happy you have an income?

It’s a choice.  Moment to moment we have a choice as to what we put our focus on.

Many folks have said to me when I mention I am mostly news free, I have to be informed.

My question here is, why?  What would happen if you were not informed of all the ill and disaster that happens around the world on a daily basis?  Unless you are formulating plans to fix all these situations then what good is it doing you to know about them and then think about how awful it is?

And is that helping the folks who unfortunately were involved in the disastrous or awful thing?  No, really all it is doing is hurting you.

Worrying is the same as watching the news except you make up versions of terrible things that could happen.  Then you think about them, playing them over and over in your mind.

So how is that helping you?  I suppose you could argue that if this thing does occur you will be better prepared for it.  But in reality worry is sending out a low frequency vibration so as much as you probably won’t actually get what you are worrying about, lower vibration things will be coming your way.

How about thinking about and getting excited about the things that you want to have in your life instead?  You know—good old visualizing.  Visualization is such a powerful tool and it’s fun!  It doesn’t take any special equipment.  All you have to do is plop yourself down on the couch and shut your eyes.  Why aren’t we doing this all the time?

Well, we were not conditioned to do this.  As kids most of us were told to stop daydreaming.  And to be realistic.  Don’t set your sites too high because you will be disappointed.

But really that’s all fucus!  Where it’s at is living as much of the time as you can as if all your dreams have come true.  Being in a state of gratitude for all that is in your life right now and for all that is to come.  Taking some time to daydream seeing and feeling all of the amazing things that are already in your vortex and are just waiting for your frequency to match up with them.

And aside from all of this—feeling good, well…it feels good!  So for no other reason, let’s start putting our focus there.

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4 Responses to The New F Word

  1. Phil Webster May 20, 2014 at 9:45 pm #

    I so totally agree with not watching the news! What use is it? All the important world events make their way to me by word of mouth anyway. I never thought about worry as an internal newscast though, that’s a great analogy and one I’ll take to heart.

    Meanwhile, I gotta ask… how exactly does one pronounce this wonderful new word? Does it rhyme with mucus? Or is it pronounced, well, the OTHER way? :-)

    • Gwen
      Gwen May 20, 2014 at 9:57 pm #

      Lol Phil–I’m sorry to say but I believe it is pronounced the other way…

      Thanks for your comment!

  2. MaryAnn Waring May 20, 2014 at 9:18 am #

    This is so true, Gwen! I had to laugh mid-article…because no sooner did the word “daydreaming” pop into my head – and you said it! I was admonished both at school and at home for “daydreaming”…and as it turns out, “daydreaming” is a lost art! Who knew?!?

    • Gwen
      Gwen May 20, 2014 at 12:25 pm #

      Lol–yes MaryAnn!

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