Feeling funky? Stuck in a rut? Unmotivated or just sad?
Don’t worry, we all get in that space from time to time. The question is what do you do about it?
Once we get stuck in that funky place it can be difficult to get out—much like landing in quick sand we struggle with being in that space which just sinks us deeper into it. The trick is to stop the struggle against because it ultimately envelops us more in this space where we really don’t want to be—at least consciously.
One more sticky point to this funky situation is that although it doesn’t feel good and doesn’t seem on the surface like a fun place to be, for many of us it is a very familiar space. There is a part of ourselves that wants to stay with feelings that are familiar, whether they suck or not. You end up with two strong opposing vibrations going on—what is wanted consciously to get out of your rut and be the person you know you can be, and what is familiar—feeling stuck, sad, and unable to make a change.
The good news is even though it is familiar you don’t have to stay in that space! Here are three ways to break out of that funk.
1) ASK FOR HELP! I yell this at you because it is often one of the hardest things for folks to do. People often feel they have to go it alone—I can handle this myself. Seeking help might make them appear weak. In the most loving way I must yell at you again, NO!! There is nothing weak about asking for help—it is actually the smartest and strongest thing you can do. When we are stuck it is very difficult to see beyond that perspective—working with a helping professional or talking it through with a friend offers a different perspective that you may have not been able to access on your own.
2) Seek out community. Again, don’t go it alone—find a group of people with the same interests that you have. There is nothing like being around a group of people who are passionate about the same thing as you are, or are on the same path. Sharing ideas or just time together often is enough to help you start making the shift back into a more positive place.
3) Bust a move. As much as you may not feel like it if you are stuck in a funk, get your body moving. Go for a brisk walk or a run. Get your heart pumping. Better yet crank some music and kitchen dance (ok, you can dance anywhere—I prefer the kitchen). This will get some nice chemicals firing in your brain which will help you be able to see things from a new perspective.
Over the last couple of years I have really found the value in asking for help and investing in myself. I have a coach who helps me with my business but more importantly helps me maintain the positive vibration of the good space I want to hang out in. I have a personal trainer because after I lost the weight I was running but had very little muscle tone. I didn’t know how to go about doing that on my own so I got help and now I am probably in the best shape at 46 than I’ve been in my life. I learn from my meditation teacher because I need that support to keep up my own meditation practice. I often joke that I need a team of experts to get me through my life, but actually it is no joke because seeking help has changed my life in profound ways.
Community has also been very important to me in the last several years helping me to maintain focus on where I want to be. I am very fortunate to have a wonderful meditation center right here in my town where I can go sit with others who are on a similar spiritual path. I have community with people I have done trainings with, most recently the folks from the training I did to teach Mike Dooley’s Infinite Possibilities material. It is so helpful to have the support of that group to move forward with teaching classes. And very important to me is my community of friends who I can always rely on for love and support of any kind that is needed.
Lastly, I will just throw out there that when I start to have the funky feeling creep in if I am aware enough I will usually see that I haven’t been running much (or kitchen dancing). Taking a run always shifts my mental state.
So if you are stuck in a funk, a rut, or an unhelpful state of mind, just know that you don’t have to stay there. Don’t let the familiarity of it lure you to stay stuck. Start taking these steps and make the shift to be the person you know you truly are!
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