Oh my God, I can’t believe I’m turning fifty. I remember when my parents turned fifty—it seemed so old. What have I done with my life? It’s all downhill from here.
Nope, not going there, not even a little bit.
Although I understand that age is really irrelevant, often when a new decade begins we have certain associations with it. The twenties can be linked to starting a career and finding your purpose, the thirties perhaps with the growth of a family, forties can be associated with the popular mid-life crisis, and the fifties, well that’s just over the hill—sorry, you’re getting old.
But when I look back on my life, it was not that way at all.
In my twenties I was a wreck who somehow earned a business degree, and then went on to waitress. I often joke when I skillfully uncork a bottle of wine that it is thanks to my college education (sorry mom and dad).
In my thirties I continued being a wreck, but started trying to do something about it. I had a few relationships that failed, with nary a family in sight.
In my forties, all my seeking and searching to try not to be a wreck anymore started to take hold. By my mid-forties, instead of having a crisis, I averted one, and really turned my life around. I found a healthy way to eat and be around food, and lost all the weight that had accumulated from three decades of dieting and hating myself. In making peace with food and my body, I found that peace spread into all areas of my life—the wreck had left the building. And I started to write because that’s what I always wanted to do.
So, I turned fifty a couple of weeks ago, and I couldn’t be more thrilled! I have no feelings that the best of my life is behind me because clearly, with formerly being a wreck and all, that is not the case. I feel like I have finally “found myself” and although there are many unknowns in my life, I can’t wait to see what happens next.
No matter what decade you happen to be residing in, here are a few highlights that might resonate from my journey from nervous, panicked, full of fear wreck, to mostly sane, peaceful, joyful being.
1) I love to read personal growth and spiritual books, to attend seminars and workshops—to learn from others. I have had some amazing mentors and teachers, and they were beyond helpful on my quest to turn my life around. But at the end of the day, nothing out there is going to make you feel peaceful, or make you happy. It is all inside of you.
2) No matter what is going on in my life, I have the power to change it. I create my own experience through my beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions, and I can change any belief that is not serving me. I can train myself to think in a different way.
3) I am not a victim of circumstances; they are just circumstances. The only thing that matters is how I react to the circumstances before me. I have a choice. I always have a choice. (And so do you)
4) It is all up to me, but I am not in it alone. There is help all around me always—all I need to do is ask and be open, because …
5) Yes, I am having a human experience, but my true essence is the spark of the Divine that is inside me, and inside you, and inside everything that has ever been created or will be created, and that connects us all. It connects all of us who happen to be hanging out here on planet earth at this time in space, as well as every being in the “unseen” realms. And by being open to it, I have experienced that beings in the unseen (unseen at least by me) are always available to help us evolve, in whatever way we need. All you have to do is be open to the possibility.
We all want to be happy, so why not just choose to be? Don’t wait for a mid-life crisis. You have all the power to create a life you love–if you haven’t already, start creating it today!